Did you have a laundry list of resolutions this year?
How did they pan out?
Personally, I tried a different approach this year. I used the word ‘forward’ to guide and inform my decisions. When an interesting opportunity presented itself, I would ask myself if the opportunity would help me to grow, learn, develop and push things forward. If the answer was yes, I was in. Here’s what happened:
learned that I like to write. My first guest blog went viral, you can read it here. I now regularly guest blog for an online community called Escape the City, whose philosophy and values clearly chime with my own.
The Escape tribe is truly where my heart is. I love start up culture and being around people who are trying to start a business of their own spurs me into action. Doing one of their courses actually gave me a clear idea for a new website – so stay tuned.
I saw a need in my firm for more training and coaching, instead of expecting someone else to do it, I got involved and now co-chair a diversity network which helps people with their personal development and leadership skills.
I also learned which tribes don’t work for me – no need to mention names here. My advice is please do not spend time with people you don’t like. They suck all your positive energy away and frankly don’t deserve any of the good stuff you have to offer. If you are the sum total of the 5 people you hang out with, who exactly are you hanging out with? Spend time with people who bring out the best in you and genuinely want to see you succeed. The Naked email on Board of Directors really taps into this idea. Sheryl Sandberg also mentions that when deciding whether to take the COO role at Facebook, she went to her close friends to discuss whether it would be a good move.
None of this was easy. Writing, building a business and a diversity network as well as holding down an incredibly stressful city job does not always make for a happy fairy tale. The mounting levels of stress caused me to have alopecia. I had to acknowledge my boundaries and learn to say no a little more often.
nd stay positive, because look at how many good things happened. These completely surpassed the bad and leaves the ugly in the shadows ( I am pleased to say that my hair is now growing back).
I’m sharing this to spur you into action. So often we look at other people and their achievements and think that we can’t do the same. You can do whatever you want and it starts by moving in the right direction. You don’t get there in one giant leap, but rather small intentional steps every day of the year.
Sitara Warren has worked in Financial Services for 10 years and is currently planning her escape. You can hear more about her journey through her blog, where she discusses start-ups, living life on your terms and various philosophical points along the way.
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