Move to Newcastle, New York or Nepal? Apply to the Grad program or study a Post-Grad? Or just quit your job and sell organic jam at the local farmers market? While we (and some of you) are still in a BOLDtalks love-bomb-inspiration-bubble... there was one comment from an audience member that is still playing on our minds here at Naked HQ…
“I feel I have so many options that I'm frozen, completely incapable of making a decision about my future.”
These comments hark back to observations made by Naked correspondent Gen Liston earlier this year in Home Is Where The Heart Is?
We become paralysed by too much variety and wracked with uncertainty and regret about whether we are making the right decisions. Ultimately too much choice and opportunity leaves us unsatisfied by the choices we do make.
With so many decisions to make, each feeling as if they are going to shape the rest of our lives (unlikely this is actually the case) and the added pressure of friends and peers achieving and seemingly passing us in their careers and personal lives – this feels like a critical time to make the right choices.
The trouble is, the pressure often means we make no decision at all. So how can you get unstuck?
Firstly, forget listing pros & cons when it comes top big career & life decisions. Because 2015 is all about action.
NAKED'S TOP 5 WAYS TO GET OVER DECISION PARALYSIS
1. Just start. Start right where you are. You don’t need to know where the journey will end before you begin. But inaction is the most surefire way to stay stuck. Email someone from that company you REALLY want to work with. Even if they’re a junior burger - take them for coffee and gather some critical intel. Or be brave and craft a beautiful email to the CEO. (Advice on writing a great cold email here). You would be amazed at how often this pays off.
2. Do something everyday that scares you. This is my personal favourite. In my years in investment banking I was utterly crippled by a fear of public speaking. I never slept the night before presentations and once ran from a room in tears after going completely blank (twice) in front of a group of new grad recruits. (Not even slightly exaggerating here). Despite the anxiety it caused, I kept presenting, and I truly credit those dreaded Monday morning market reports with accelerating my career.
3. Surround yourself with the right people. We’ve quoted it before and we’ll quote it again : ‘You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most amount of time with’. So choose them carefully. Ditch those that sap your energy and call that mate who always has the answers. And if you don’t have that friend, get in touch with one of the girls from Naked for a chat.
4. FACT: The more unsettled you are, the closer you are to a breakthrough. As Florence said - ‘It’s always darkest before the dawn’. If you are feeling ready to tear your hair out and desperate for that change - congratulations you are closer than you think. We see this time and time again. And the quickest way to get there…
5. Actively seek out inspiration. A few of you have told us you felt equally inspired and inferior listening to the speakers at BOLD.
Brilliant we say. Perfect in fact! Real inspiration should make you uncomfortable.
It should challenge you. Great things never came from comfort zones. We all seek inspiration when we need change. Change is uncomfortable. And it’s only through discomfort that we grow.
Written by Fiona Triaca